The Swedish Book Story

At some point probably six months ago (more or less), some Swedish journalist by the name of Inti Chavez Perez, woke up and had this vision.  He's a young Swede, and it's unlikely that a older Swede would have come to this vision.  The idea?  He'd write a 'how-to book' on sex and relationships in Sweden....designed for immigrants.

No, it wouldn't be the 99 different positions, or a page-by-page description of bondage practices.  It would be about the flirtatious behavior....the chit-chat phase....the stages of a date and how you reach the 'important' conclusion, etc. 

The book?  "Me and You".

I read through the various stories on Perez and his study of the whole topic.  He actually went out and talked to young migrants, older Swedes, and regular people. 

In his work....he even had to go and ask questions that typically wouldn't concern a Swede, but would concern a third-world guy with no real background knowledge (example:  “Is masturbation dangerous?”)

I sat and pondered upon this whole process.  In the race by the intellectuals of Europe to demonstrate their great acceptance of multi-cultural people, there was no thinking to the idea that so many people coming through the doorway would not be at the same level of understanding as the intellectuals or the people of Europe.

If you go up to Germans and bring up the topic of nude-beaches....they will go over a 3x5 inch card of information and just say that some people do it in Germany, and that it's not a big deal.  Out of 82-million Germans, I would take a humble guess that less than 400,000 would be seen once a year at a nude-beach.  People accept the behavior but it's a national trend.

If you went up to a German pub and brought up flirting, you'd get a hundred different explanations of how Germans flirt.  The old guys would give you a pretty conservative view.....the young guys would give you a fairly liberal view.  Most German women over the age of thirty will list out at least twenty male behavioral trends which make a date possibility 'zero'. 

The added problem here is that you have a pretty fair number of the incoming migrants and immigrants who came out of ultra-conservative nations.  Just standing in the middle of a German swimming pool and noting the women in bathing suits.....that gets them all hyped-up and thinking it's almost a bordello-operation.

This Swedish guy....Perez?  Well, he's probably correct and doing something that has value.  But getting this information out in front of a bunch of young men, and insisting that behavioral modification is necessary?  That's going to be a rough one.